Practice and making choices | Juwon Ogungbe

A sense of purpose or initiative develops through practice. Muscles need to be strengthened and processes experienced. Mistakes are likely to be made, but hopefully, they open up new vistas.

A child is sent to get a haircut. Cultural perceptions collide, when the barber produces a long sharp blade to shape the edges of his handiwork. The child is unhappy about having such a tool used on his head, but doesn’t feel he can say anything about it.

Before the next visit to the barber, the child raises the issue with a parent who is willing to listen. He is given permission to tell the barber not to use the blade on his head. The child learns there is room for negotiation.

Making good choices is a practice that is encouraged in some settings more than others. If a person feels he or she doesn’t have options, what is the point of living?

Compliance has its uses, but free will always wins out in the end.

Originally published at on November 24, 2020.




Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Recommended from Medium

This Week in the Stars

Real Life: Editing My Online Time

Should I

G. Quinn Rogers Author interview

How My Biggest Drawbacks Became My Biggest Money Making Strengths!

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Me

You’ll kick yourself if you miss out on this!

The Integrated Being

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Juwon Ogungbe

Juwon Ogungbe

More from Medium

The Roller Coaster Called Life

The Roller Coaster Called Life

Thinking without Words

Struggles about growing up between countries

Unfuck yourself